HERE....Let's check our love knowledge!!!
I am not Shakespeare. I am not a love guru or something as so either but I
have some clear perceptions regarding love. Love and relationships today among
the young adults has become a hot topic. Gone are those days when a 18-year-old
Romeo shared a deep committed love with a 14 -year-old Juliet. Of course, they
are fictional characters who represented an era where teenage romance was
actually serious! But with the evolution of time the Romeo-Juliet fantasy love
story no longer can connect to today's Love scenario of the teenagers and
youngsters. Today i am going to let you question your basic knowledge and views
towards your personal love insights.
The idea to love today is very simple. You like somebody. You feel certain
attraction towards them. Then you start thinking about them...think how
beautiful or good looking they are, and you feel that you are missing them. And
you decide you're in love and ask them out maybe; if you're lucky enough to get
a YES then Congratulations! You're now in a relationship. You have a new girl/boyfriend.
And the story after that is familiar to all of us. If the lovers share a
great bonding till the time to come
they're in what they call a 'Happy relationship', If not, breaking up is the only thing on
earth left to do. Isn't it funny? I am not trying to intimidate or hurt
some one's feelings here but it is actually funny and ironic to me how people
say they really loved someone and things didn't work out so they had to quit.
Really? Would you ever let go someone when you would need them so much in your
life?And even if you do, Would you ever stop thinking about them? The answer is
NO. Let's get real, teenage romance isn't getting anywhere.
I'll take an example from my experience as a reference to this whole thing.
A close friend of mine was in a steady relationship with a guy senior to her by
2 years.Whenever she talked to me, she would always be like, "I am in TRUE
LOVE this time and we are so getting married for sure'. She was lovesick, i
used to think for what she did....she wrote his names on her notebooks like
crazy (which could be rather used for writing something more meaningful)
changed her surname, love statuses on facebook all the time, she even decided
names for their would-be kids!!! I wondered sometimes if it really could go
that far..I never saw a good future to their relationship. I mean, REALITY
never did exist in it. And I turned out
to be a pretty good predictor when she, 3 and a half months later after the
relationship started called me up to say that she had moved on from it as he
was a total jerk and she found a better person. That left my mind on a
sarcastic note..Isn't that enough irony?
And most to the worst of all the
teenage couples today, are prone to posting each and everything on social
media..Expressing love through love quotes; some googled some original,
pictures of them together, and finally sad statuses after separation. They have
made their lives very complicated unconsciously..With a little privacy to
everything. That again destroys the essence of love.
The fact is what we, teens go through is just a certain 'physical magnetism
phase' and not really love. That's not our fault really, lets put the blame on
the hormones. After all they play a big part in determining attraction towards
the opposite sex. And while our hormones are only playing with us, we unknown
to the fact give it the name of love!
Love is not just limited to physical attraction, it's a mental, emotional
and spiritual bonding between two people who will be together in the worse to
worst conditions. And it doesn't have an easy end, it keeps on trying; to
survive even in the most suffocating circumstances of life. Who says True love
doesn't exist? I believe in true love. I have living examples of it in my
home..My Grandparents celebrated their 50 years of togetherness. They have come
across the most difficult situations in life together, They had distances that
kept them apart yet so close, From beauty to wrinkles, From strength to
weakness, From good to bad, They sticked together and still decide to continue
their journey...they did have fights yet they never had a 'Breakup'. They did
have differences but always decided to work it out. They never express their
love each and every moment yet they have a bonding which just can't be
explained.They never post those cute pictures together with captions expressing
how much love they have, on social networking sites yet they are perfect
examples of what love really is.
Love is full of sacrifices, compromises, forgiveness,integrity, commitment,
respect ,compatibility and so on...It's
not just about going on dates, buying expensive gifts, cuddling, holding hands,
all the lovey-dovey activities..its also not only bounded to affection and
caring. Of course, these are part of being in love but it is more than just
that. Love is phenomenal.
Our knowledge regarding love is not enough to make us realize what love
really means. Yes, some of us must have had experiences besides than just a
physical attraction. But the fact is we are 'Immatures' in the understanding
and experiences of love. And more than half of the youngsters today waste most
of their time and money in meeting the demands of 'being in a relationship'
(which they think is love) and which is
not even going to work and will probably end at a certain point of time. We
young people tend to follow the trend and often end up making mistakes. We rush
to a relationship seeing the perks of it and never really try to know the
consequences. We have a lifetime, a whole single life waiting for us to
meet the person who is going to be the one. Who will finally wake us up from
the 'Sleep-dream' of this virtuosity of love...What we know right now is not
enough to get love into our heads. It's a big word not a child's play.
Let's not run the ''How many people you date?'' marathon....Love isn't a
game of numbers...In fact, it isn't a game at all :)
Hoping that my words above hasn't offended anyone and rather gave a moment
of questioning 'What do I really know about love?' I would like to wrap this up
with a quote,"Love isn't something you find, Love is something that finds you". -Loretta Young
:) :)
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